Summer heat, hair and a lesson in self- acceptance

The ever ending over- manipulation of my hair ^. Smh

I’ve been frustrated with my natural hair for  years but I think I had a revelation last week.     

The blistering heat and humidity of summer has made it pointless to attempt  doing much with my hair.  It’s been looking crazy, and I don't even care. This is new for me. 
Normally, when my hair looks ( what I feel is)  crazy, I'm obsessed with getting it right. I'll re-wash, re-twist, reapply products, everything. I'm usually doing the.most.to.my.hair.  Can’t help it! Lately,  though, when  I look in the mirror and don’t like what I see, I just keep it moving. I’m finally realizing that  this is how my hair is gonna be.

Yes, it will always be knotted up on the sides ( heavy sigh),  yes it will always be frizzy and loose at the crown and yes it will probably always have the cutest little ringlets in the back of my head where no one can see them but it's all part of what makes my hair MY hair. Though it seems silly, this is so new for me.  I've been in a battle with my hair for a while and 'methinks' the hair has just won. It feels freeing to finally let go of the frenetic search for the right product/style/texture and all the stress that came with that.

This doesn’t mean I won’t have a hairstyles that I dislike or that I won’t use henna in hopes of making my hair more manageable (smh), shiny or grey-less. It doesn't even mean  that I’ll be in total love with my hair like some naturals are. It just means that I am embracing myself  more fully and that, I think, is a good thing. 

Can't say I'm thrilled at the thought of more hot, sticky, humid days, BUT, I am thankful for the summer heat if only for making it so hard to "fix" my hair that I just quit trying.   Sometimes things don't work out no matter what you do, so you will stop trying to "fix"  things and just  go along with what was meant to be. ☺

It looks like this is how it's gonna be

(Shrugs)

Are you still struggling to embrace your natural hair? Weigh in...




xo,
~M